Thursday, November 06, 2008

Sharing a learning.

It's Friday for me! Yay!

I am very excited about my weekend.

Mr. Wonderful and I are headed down to see his family. His parents took the day off Friday to spend time with us and his brother is coming to visit as well. It has been several months since I have seen them and I am looking forward to it. I love the drive down there. I have always loved traveling south. Something about that stretch of road makes me exceedingly happy. We will spend Friday with one set of parents and part of the day Saturday with the other set of parents. I think they all like me and are beginning to see how serious we are about each other. :)

Oh what a happy time in life right. A time I thought would never get here for me. I cannot wait to be engaged so that I can openly share plans and hopes and dreams. I feel silly doing all that before it's official for everyone that we will be spending the rest of our lives together.

Let's talk about that a minute...

Let me give you a little background...I no longer believe in divorce...you see I grew up in a world of divorce...but for me divorce is NOT an option. I think couples jump into things using divorce as their way out if it does not work out.

After I gave my heart to the Lord, my Creator, The One who formed me in my mother's womb, who already has my plan written out, after I surrendered my life to Jesus He showed me Truth.

He asked me not to date. He brought an incredible family into my life. In that time of singleness I began a journey of Healing and Learning. My whole outlook on family, marriage, and relationships changed.

Statistics say I would have grown up to have at least one if not many relationships end in divorce. But because of the Truth and Learning Jesus brought to my attnetion that will not be what happens in my life. Divorce is not an option.

In my time of singleness I learned that God created someone for me and all I have to do is wait for His timing. After all He knows much better than I do what is best for me and what the plan is. He did create me with a plan already in mind, and only He can see that plan fully. I only see pieces at a time as He allows and as I am ready to see. He is my Heavenly FATHER the superhero of all parents! So I learned that in His timing He would bring my mate and that I would know when it was The Time and The One. That my friends is exactly what happened. I could not have predicted the time or the way it happened either. It was ALL GOD. And know that I would not have even choosen to date had I not gotten God's okay first. I knew that the next person I dated would be the man I would marry.

So I waited for The One God created for me and His timing. There is no need to ever doubt if this is right I already know. God has reassured me again and again. Trust me I wanted to be sure, I asked over and over. Even though I felt I already knew I needed to hear it from My Creator a few times to make sure it wasn't just me doing this. God created us for each other. Divorce is not an option. Divorce is not necessary.

Are we perfect without any squabbles or challenges? NO! Who is? Noone. But we know this relationship has been ordained by our Heavely Father. We seek Him together everyday. We seek Him seperately everyday. We will choose for the rest of our lives to do what it takes to make the relationship work and keep it centered in Christ. Yes it will take work, yes it will take prayer, yes there will be difficult times, and YES we will be together for the rest of our lives.

This really is the most exciting time. God has brought The One and He has promised to prosper us and not to harm us, to give us a hope and a Future. How awesome is THAT!!!

God is good and wants us to have the best. We often jump the gun and short change ourselves. I remember last summer reading a story in the bible of a people God sent to take a city, but He gave clear instructions not to take the city but do not plunder the city. However there was one who did plunder the city and take goods. The next battle was no the victory they had been promised because this one had disobeyed. They found him out. I can't remember exactly what happened...I believe he was killed or exiled. However after he was found out and the items removed, the people began to have victory over the city they were trying to take. God said they could plunder this city. It had FAR MORE for the people to receive than the previous city. The point is...when we obey the first time, though it may not make sense right away or though it may not be easy. There is a MUCH BIGGER reward God has in store. We don't know that ahead of time and will never know that ahead of time. We must simply TRUST. Yep...TRUST. Trust and Obey. Nope it's not easy. It's Simple but not Easy. The greatest thing...When we fail and we will fail...God is Gracious, Forgiving, and Loving. What more could we ask for really.

Jesus is my life for the rest of my life.

Father may I always choose to obey and trust You, no matter how hard or how much I do not understand. In Jesus name. Amen.

3 comments:

Jamie said...

You go girl!! Just say no to divorce!!! And drugs too. Just to be clear... so say to divorce and drugs! :)

rach said...

yay for knowing you've found the one. it's a great feeling... especially after waiting so long for it. (believe me, i know)

JMBMOMMY said...

I think it is so important to KNOW that divorce is not an option. I don't think many go into marriage thinking it is ... but few commit to it being NOT. I believe it makes a huge difference. I feel very called to help other women see there is freedom, peace, and hope in marriage--and it doesn't have to end in divorce. I am thankful for my marriage and the work God has completed in it.